I’m currently raising a tween (she’s 12). There’s a few things I was expecting like the constant talking to her friends (on her ipod and not the phone I imagined when she was born) and the difficulty in getting her to clean her room to name a couple. And while I knew one day the whole PG-13 to rated R question would come up, it’s extremely difficult to decide what to do unless I take it on a case by case basis. There is no one size fits all without being unfair. Also, I failed to realize I was going to have the same problem with TV shows and not just the HBO stuff.
The movie rating system tends to feel that city-wide massacres are okay for PG-13 as long as you don’t show the blood (Avengers, Batman, Transformers). But if it gets too bloody or there’s a boob then it’s rated R. This means decapitated heads flying in the air are okay for 13 year olds, but saying too many cuss words is rated R even if the body count is lower.